People ask if it’s possible to manipulate a narcissist. How do you manipulate someone who lies and manipulates? Psychopaths and narcissists are just like anyone else, you can manipulate a narcissist if you know what they need. That’s why they lie all the time. They are determined from the beginning of any relationship to establish the upper hand. To do that, they have to hide what they really need and want. I can tell you what that is: