Psychopaths have a trick for numbing us to danger. I call it the danger-safe trick. It’s also known as the trauma bond or Stockholm syndrome. It’s part of the whipsaw on your emotions. First they create the danger and then they save you. There are a myriad of ways it can happen.
Continue reading →In addition to the Gray Rock Method, another mental model we can use to understand what the psychopath wants, is the Slot Machine Model. The bright colored “slots”, also known as the One-Armed-Bandit, are addictive to compulsive gamblers. They while away the hours parked in front of one or a bank of slot machines, inserting their coins and hoping for a pay day. The slots generally take your money for nothing. Mostly it just spins the numbers and fruit and makes noise but occasionally it spits out a little incentive, a few coins just to keep you hooked. After I learned that the psychopath’s true desire was solely for my emotions, I channeled the One-Armed-Bandit’s response mechanisms to entice him with emotional currency.
Continue reading →In the journey of the Pearl of Purity, we started by getting a more balanced view on responsibilities and learned to see how some often touted memes in our present day society – such as the laws of attraction – … Continue reading →
The mythical ‘law of attraction’ is deeply ingrained in our society. But you are not responsible for who approaches you, only who you seek and keep in your life. The creation and growth of the Pearl of Purity starts with … Continue reading →
Revenge, justice, punishment. These concepts are sometimes used interchangeably when discussing how we might respond to a psychopathic attack. On the surface, an eye for an eye, may seem equitable and justified. Beneath the surface, though, there is much more … Continue reading →
Purity is not the same as innocence. You were born innocent. You know evil now. You lived with it. You loved it. You slept with it. You have become tainted, not by your own actions, but by the psychopath. While you cannot retrieve your innocence, you can find purity.
Continue reading →Jesus’ life-story, crucifixion and resurrection can be seen as an analogy to the psychological process that a survivor experiences during and after an encounter with a psychopath or cluster B disordered. It is an interpretation which may help both religious … Continue reading →
In this week’s sermon at my local church, the priest reminded us that the Pharisees disapproved of Jesus for eating with prostitutes and tax collectors. “Those” people were considered unclean and therefore contagious. It was dangerous to be in their … Continue reading →
The Sabotage Have you ever had anyone plot to kill you, try to drive you to suicide through bullying or plan your financial ruin? It’s hard not to take those things personally. It certainly feels personal. The attack is maliciously … Continue reading →
I’ve recently learned something interesting about caterpillars. Inside the caterpillar body, there are clumps of cells called imaginal discs. These discs, which carry the butterfly DNA, are dormant for most of the caterpillar’s life. Once the caterpillar enters the pupa … Continue reading →
