(Noun) A WTF? Moment is a moment of confusion after witnessing a psychopath’s irrational or illogical behavior.
There are two types: the acknowledged WTF? Moment and the unacknowledged or “bypassed” WTF? Moment.
The acknowledged WTF? Moment is a red flag of psychopathy. This red flag comes from acknowledging the sensation of confusion within ourselves. It does not relate to any excuses the psychopath might offer for his inexplicable behavior.
By it’s very nature, it’s difficult to describe the WTF? Moment because it is a gut reaction to the inexplicable. Like art or porn, you can’t describe it but you know it when you feel it.
The acknowledged WTF? Moment may be followed by the thought, “WHO DOES THAT?” and “WHY DO THAT?” or “You couldn’t MAKE this shit up!” and “Truth is stranger than fiction.”
Almost all psychopathic behavior is inexplicable to the uninitiated and seems to have no rhyme or reason. The saying, “cutting off your nose to spite your face” is one analogy for psychopathic behavior which may trigger a WTF? Moment. Other examples include, lying about irrelevant things, keeping secrets that don’t seem to matter to anyone and psychopathic word salad. Only after understanding the concepts of arrested development, splitting and projecting, can we begin to understand the behaviors we witness.
The unacknowledged WTF? Moment is actually a form of denial. The memory is usually stored in a WTF? Bucket, a euphemism for a “catch-all” place in memory where victims of psychopaths store all the incidents they could not make sense of because they didn’t know what a psychopath is and what a psychopath does. The victim accepts the incident as inexplicable and seems to forget all about it.
During recovery from psychopathic abuse, the survivor retrieves each memory in detail, from the WTF? Bucket and restores it to it’s rightful place in reality, as a memory of an experience with a disordered human being. That’s when the memory becomes and AHA! Moment.« Back to Glossary Index