Nov 062013
 
Psychopath or Sociopath? What's in a Name?

I use the term "psychopath " to refer to a variety of disordered personalities whose interpersonal style is one of callous manipulation --in particular, those people who fall into the category of the Dark Triad, usually labeled narcissists, psychopaths and Machiavellianists.  Additionally,  you might be familiar with other terms used to describe these individuals: sociopath,…

Oct 172013
 
Observing a Psychopath

Years ago, I rented a car and drove over a mountain pass to pick up the psychopath and his minion from his job site.  Psychopath rode shotgun while Minion sat behind him in the backseat. In my rearview mirror I could see Minion's eyes and he could see mine. On the drive back I chose…

Aug 292013
 
Why People Hate Skyler White on <i>Breaking Bad</i>

Actress Anna Gunn, the actress who plays Skyler White on Breaking Bad, writes OP-Ed for the NYTimes. The Breaking Bad Forums are filled with Skyler White haters and that hatred has even transferred to actress Anna Gunn, the actress who plays Skyler, as viewers begin to confuse the world of reality with the world of…

Jul 302013
 
Attraction by the Pearl of Purity

  The mythical 'law of attraction' is deeply ingrained in our society. But you are not responsible for who approaches you, only who you seek and keep in your life. The creation and growth of the Pearl of Purity starts with a proper view of responsibilities, moves on to optimal speech and actions and is…

Nov 192012
 
Why Do Psychopaths Lie?

Psychopaths lie all the time and it's perplexing to us.  Dr. Morgan Scott Peck titled his book on human evil, People of the Lie, because one of the most common traits of a psychopath is that they lie.  They seem to be compulsive liars. Why do they lie so much? They lie about important things…

Jul 232012
 
Penn State's Fall From Grace.

In Violence and The Sacred, Rene Girard explains that the sacrificial victim must be guilty so that his death can be justified. If the victim isn’t believed to be guilty then his death won’t bring peace to the community. Shortly before the date of execution, the prisoner’s `escape’ was ritually staged. Invariably, of course, he…

Jun 132012
 
More Thoughts About the Role of Anger

I stumbled onto this excellent article that I'd like to share, Anger: Attachment and Neurobiological Perspectives.  It gives a thorough explanation of anger management styles and how they originate in attachment.  I think many of us will find it a useful tool for examining our own anger as well as that of people we know.…

Jun 102012
 
Hate the Sin, Not the Sinner

In this week's sermon at my local church, the priest reminded us that the Pharisees disapproved of Jesus for eating with prostitutes and tax collectors. "Those" people were considered unclean and therefore contagious. It was dangerous to be in their company because one might become like them. Now that we understand Mimetic Theory, we know…

Jun 082012
 
Rituals, OCD and Psychopathy

Rene Girard's book, Violence & the Sacred, describes rituals in primitive cultures that are eerily reminiscent of an experience with a psychopath. The cycles of "idealize, devalue and discard" familiar to those who have been in relationships with Cluster B personalities, are described in the sacrificial rituals of primitive tribes. In these rituals, sacrificial victims…

May 222012
 
Steps to Healing from Domestic Abuse

A friend asked me this: What are the steps toward healing from an encounter with a psychopath? Validate that the abuse really happened. First, and most important is to be validated. An abuser understands that the abuse has more power when the victim is alone. Isolation doesn't have to be physical, just as violence doesn't…

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